Peer Comparison

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One of the easiest ways to feel bad about oneself is to compare ourselves unfavorably with others. What we see is the outcome of what a person chooses to show us. We may be tempted to compare ourselves with those who have more accomplishments, seem more attractive, make more money, or boast more among our peer groups. The attention that one gets while describing the fun sides of their lives also often leads us to ignore the things that could be happening in their lives which usually apart from those which are highlighted.
This in turn leads to comparisons accompanied by feelings of inadequacy and inferiority just on the basis of what others have and what you don't. We invite ourselves to the kind of negativity that we would find stuck upon for some really irrational insecurity that we are not as attractive or appealing to the people we are around. When you find yourself envious of what someone else has and feel jealous, inferior or inadequate as the result, you're having a negative social comparison moment.
Take five minutes out of your daily schedule and introspect all that you have, all the things that make you the unique you, by eliminating the comparison of thinking about what how Jasmine talks about her new makeup routine or Nick talking about his travel diaries and how you do not have things like that to display or brag about in front of your friends where all you invite for at the end of the day is evaluation, to be evaluated by people who did not know what your real experiences were like but their evaluation would make you feel low about yourself that you are not good enough.
Is that fair? If we take some time out to value ourselves and understand what is it that we have, which makes us unique and for comparison to be given the least importance especially to evaluate how good we are at whatever we are doing, we can keep that negativity away, far away from getting us. By constantly reminding ourselves of the fact that everybody shares only the best aspects of their lives with the public, we would realize that the grass cannot always be greener on the other side, but it can always be greener if we take the effort to water it.