Marriage word can be scary, dreamy, restraining, or simply a fear of unknown. Be it love or arranged, everyone faces challenges of all sorts to sustain or flourish in this bond.
Here are best marriage quotes that can help you understand the fundamental principles couples can adopt in their lives.
Marriage is not the main goal, it is a process that involves innumerable efforts to sustain what the couple has signed up together. In a marriage, things will keep changing, there will be no point where things aren’t changing. It is a mix of both highs and lows.
As we grow lot of things change, then why should the definition of love be the same?
Think it this way, today you are not who you used to be, and tomorrow you won’t be who you are today, and this goes for your partner as well. So there will be new parts about the same person to fall in love with.
Consider yourself to be in a place where you are only growing. Often the marital conflicts and arguments poke our ego bubble, because we are attached to the way we perceive ourselves. And that creates a tiff between partners, so it is natural at times partners may not like certain things about each other.
But those are the times when we must remember it the problem versus the couple, and not the couple against each other. Because, it is unrealistic to expect a change when you are not willing to offer it yourself.
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Every person’s understanding of it is different, because we are all unique in our own ways. Hence with growth, everything will change…even your love. So figure that out when you see there is a change in how you two were and are right now, because it won’t be the same, but can be better.
Self-work is most important in all relationships, especially in a marriage. One cannot find a right partner when they are not right for the other one. Be the understanding one, you will find your partner understanding, be the compromising one and you will see it reciprocated.
It all starts from YOU!
If you’re married and you didn’t make mistakes, are you even married?
Making mistakes is not a problem, but holding on to them and suffering and making the other one suffer is what makes it difficult to make marriages successful.
A forgiving attitude will take the couple really far in their marriage.
If you want to see the flower bloom, you need to water it daily.
Remember the spark that was there in the beginning of your marriage; curiosity to know each other; and explore things together?
Now wake up everyday believing it is your Day 1, wherein you have to start all over again.
Quite often couples may get bothered by knowing their partner’s past, and often feel betrayed or jealous, which further impacts their present.
The fact is that there’s a reason the past is in the past, and you are your partner’s present now. Understand that there was a life before you and they chose to leave that and move forward with you.
So while you live in the present and embrace your marriage, then only can you look forward to a happier future.
Marriage involves two individual people, and they both are unique, have different goals, personalities and ideas towards life. It must be that way if it is, because there is a life together and there is a life that the couples have individually. This comes from the point of personal space in the marriage; acceptance towards each other; and live and let live philosophy.
Like a cycle has two tyres and it cannot function without one of them, likewise, marriage is a two way street where both the partners need to make efforts, express their concerns, communicate challenges, communicate with each other. Otherwise, one partner making all the efforts is exhausting and dissatisfying.
At times couples assume that their partner must be aware of their internal state. When they leave it to assumptions that is when the expectations are not met. Listening intently and expressing freely are two important tools. You must be able to provide comfort to your partner so he/she can express, and you must initiate to talk whenever there is something that might be bothering you, because intentionally or unintentionally it will impact your marriage.
To avoid over-focusing on the spouse’s negatives, you can train your mind to focus on the positives. Overlook the few small things (the 20 percent) that you don’t like about your spouse and continually remind yourself of the 80 percent that you like. Make it a habit to thank your spouse for the things he or she does well. As you compliment and praise your spouse for strengths, you will be less likely to notice the partner’s weaknesses and faults.
A good marriage doesn’t just happen. It is the sum total of living each day on purpose. Choosing to show kindness, grace, love, and mercy into your relationship will reap a marriage that bears much fruit. Do you want to hear the best news? If you don’t like where you are right this second, you can start now. Change your attitude, change your marriage.
It’s the idea that how you’re together matters far more than what you’re doing together. It’s this “how” that determines whether the relationship is going to thrive.
It’s not who you are or what you do that will prolong or help you find the perfect mate. It’s how you speak to each other, how well you get along, and how you move through time together.
And this how is driven by something far more powerful and longer-lasting than shared interests or personality.
“Measures of personality don’t predict anything,” Gottman once explained to Psychology Today. “But how people interact does. Couples need to feel they are building something together that has meaning.” This means couples who truly interact well together see that their relationship has a more important purpose than to be agreeable—and that purpose and big-picture goal is something that they’re strongly invested in.
These are few basic but best marriage quotes to work upon. Whether you are married or going to be married soon, if you can practice these marriage quotations it will help you build on your married life.
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