Finding a counselor is simple, but figuring out whether you’ve found the right one for you could be more difficult. There are several questions that one can ask that will help you in selecting the best online therapist or counselor. The terms “therapist” and “counselor” are used in this article.
According to Ludlow, finding the correct therapist or counselor may require some trial and error.
Some people will try out different therapists before they choose the right one. When they start talking with a counselor, they will be able to identify whether they’re someone they can work with based on their connection and relationship.
In therapy and counseling, the relationship between the therapist and the client is important. Finding someone you feel comfortable talking to, who respects you and your difficulties, and who understands them, is crucial. If your age, sexuality, gender, race, or ability are significant to you, this may be very relevant.
According to Ludlow, the most important thing is to look at the counselor’s profile to see if they resolve the problems you are facing or believe you are having. Visual aids can also help you decide if they are the perfect person for you. People assess whether they think they could work with someone by seeing the therapists’ photographs. Often, I hear individuals tell me, “I wanted someone a little more mature,” or “I wanted someone young.”
When you first start looking into therapy and trying to figure out the ideal type, method, and therapist for you, it can be stressful for you. Let’s have a look at how you can find the best online therapist for yourself.
What does sitting with the therapist feel like for you?
Do you feel secure and at ease? Is small talk easy to make? Is the person friendly and relatable, or do they come across as emotionless and distant? Is the therapist “caught in her brain,” or is she unnaturally sensitive and empathic? Is the online therapist arrogant or a “know-it-all”? Many of us indeed experience some nervousness when visiting a therapist for the first time, and it’s crucial to draw out our own “stuff” from the actual therapist. There is, however, no burden or law requiring you to continue working with any counselor if they don’t seem to be the right fit for you.
What is the counselor’s main therapy philosophy?
Does your counselor have a kind and optimistic attitude toward people? Do they think that people are naturally nice and lovely, or do they think that people have inherent faults?
Can the counselor explain in detail how they aim to help you in trying to resolve whatever issue or concern brought you in for therapy?
Professional therapists can explain how they may help, provide you with a general “road map” of their approach, and even provide a clue as to how you will know when therapy is over.
Does the therapist promote dependence or independence?
Good therapy helps you to find your solutions rather than fix your problems. Similar to this, effective therapy teaches you how to control your own emotions or increase your confidence rather than just ignoring your overwhelming ones. As the old saying goes, the best therapy works when it teaches patients how to fish for themselves rather than relying on outside sources of food. It’s more likely that you will start depending on your therapist to make you feel better rather than learning to rely on yourself.
Has your therapist invested in their therapy?
By going through therapy and the healing process yourself, you will be able to understand how to support someone else in healing. This is one of the best ways to understand how to support someone in healing. Therefore, therapists who have received treatment themselves learn from their experience and are likely better equipped to help others.
Has the board received any complaints?
If so, what exactly were the complaints, and were they successfully resolved? You can check with your state licensing board, typically located under the state department of health or occupational licensing, to determine if a counselor has a record or is under investigation.
Has the counselor completed graduate-level training?
In many cases, recent graduate school graduates have good book training but lack real-world counseling experience. The next step in a new counselor’s profession is usually postgraduate training in a specific type of psychotherapy, which helps in advancing a new counselor to the next level, where they will have more confidence and skill.
Is the therapist licensed?
If an online therapist is qualified, it means that they have completed significant postgraduate counseling training, which could have included up to 3,000 hours of necessary supervised experience depending on the state of licensure. The counselor has also passed a licensing test. If you want to confirm, you can get in touch with your state’s professional licensing authority.
Has the therapist had experience with others who have similar problems to those you are seeking therapy for?
A therapist who develops more skills will have more experience dealing with a specific issue, concern, or problem.
What to do if your therapist isn’t a good match
You can change the therapist if you feel your current one isn’t right after the first session.
You might wish to discuss the fact that you don’t feel a connection with your therapist if you’ve been seeing them for a while. Although it may seem awkward or uneasy, therapists often have conversations like this. They might wish to discuss a problem with you if it can be solved.
They may also suggest you to someone who is more suited to your requirements. Changing therapists is possible, even if you are uncomfortable telling your therapist directly. If you are a customer of an agency, you can request a change of therapists by contacting your agency’s office.
It’s okay if you change therapists. There are times when therapists and patients are just not compatible. That’s fine too. To get the most out of therapy, it’s crucial to interact with a therapist with whom you feel at ease.
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