What is discipline?
Primarily, discipline is related to educating, instructing and correcting but parental discipline could be linked to gardening. The way a gardener prunes the plant to prevent inclination in the wrong direction; similarly, a parent exercises discipline to give the child a right direction.
Discipline is indeed an integral part of bringing up a child but the degree of discipline needs to be altered keeping various things in mind. Too much of it can have adverse effects on the child.
Positive and Negative Discipline
Parents use discipline in order to get their children to behave in a certain manner. Choosing punishment as a way of persuading them to do something is ‘negative discipline’. It includes scolding, shouting, frightening, imposing, making them guilty etc. Negative discipline gives us quick results as it builds a sudden pressure on the child to correct what has been done wrongly.
But does that truly discipline our child?
Negative discipline does result in improved behaviour but it wouldn’t change the way a child actually wants to behave. Negative discipline would train him to understand when to control his behaviour but inside…nothing actually changes!
Negative discipline may affect the child in following ways:
When we look at positive discipline, it is a perfect blend of encouragement and being fair. It includes teaching the child the gravity of behaving in a certain manner using words, examples and practical situations. It does not hold the full authority to decide for the child but rather involves him too that makes him mature day by day.
Positive discipline may affect the child in following ways:
Now that being said, a major challenge lies in practising positive discipline.
How do we do that?
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