“My boyfriend and I share all our social media passwords. Sometimes it’s annoying, but I think that’s what you need to do when in a relationship, right?”
“Maybe that’s how relationships work” – a phrase that we often use to justify things that we are not really comfortable with, but use this as an attempt to make ourselves believe that it is how it’s supposed to be. Sometimes it becomes difficult to understand what is love, and what is mere possessiveness. The line becomes blurry, and so does our response to it.
Let’s first try to understand what possessiveness actually is. Following are certain instances that may be there in a relationship where either one of the partners or both of them exhibit these behaviors:
Did these questions come to your mind as well? When do you identify someone as being possessive or just doing things out of love, care and affection for you?
“If you love a flower, don’t pick it up. Because if you pick it up, it dies and it ceases to be what you love. So if you love a flower, let it be. Love is not about possession. Love is about appreciation.” — Osho
It sure seems like a grey area, but if you look closely, you may find your catch. Let’s discuss the above scenarios again:
Try holding water in both your palms like a bowl carefully, it won’t go anywhere. But the moment you put in more energy by closing your palms trying to save that water, it rushes down. Love is all about knowing when to stop, keeping people together with care and affection and not by possessing over them.
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