“The biggest stress for a non-working mother is the fact that she is non-working. In spite of giving all her time caring for others and making endless efforts to make other family members life easy still nobody realises the worth of all little endless things, she does for others because her hard work cannot be measured in tangible terms ie money. All her hard work goes unnoticed and often treated worthless and that is the reason for her biggest stress.” Said Mrs Indrani Yadav, who’s a mother of 2 daughters and an ex-banker.
People have a lot to say about a stay at home parent. The battle between which is better- “Being a working vs stay at home mother” is never-ending and undisputedly the most commonly discussed one. Fighting the perception of being lazy, complacent, not contributing to the income of the house vs being a great contributor by nurturing kids day in and day out are a few perceptions a stay at home mother has to fight.
The numbers from a recent Pew Research study show that the number of women who are becoming stay-at-home moms is on the rise. “While 71 percent of moms do work outside of the home, 29 percent are staying home. That number is up 6 percent from 1999”.
- The biggest factor that adds to their stress and anxiety is an unacknowledged partner/familial support.
- Often their contribution goes unrecognized and unrewarded which leads to lowered self- image, distancing couple relationship and displaced anger/negative emotions in parenting. All of this ultimately accumulates and results in clinical symptoms.
- A recent Gallup poll revealed more stay-at-home moms report experiencing sadness or anger in their day than moms who work outside of the home. Of the 60,000 women surveyed, the poll included women with no children, working moms and stay-at-home moms. For example, the number of stay-at-home moms who feel they’re struggling is 42 percent, compared to 36 percent of working moms.
How To Manage Stress As a Stay At Home Mother
The only way to deal with this stress is to think about your own self, do things you like to do or had always wished to do. Hangout with friends, take some time out for just yourself. stop bothering for all unimportant or at least less important things. Just focus on yourself for a change. My advice to others is though it is difficult yet it is sometimes important to be selfish and care for yourself rather than to wait for someone to care for you. Think about yourself before others. People who can do this can actually be comparatively happier.
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