Most of us at some point in time have wanted to be known. Being known can mean different things to different people – whether it is simply getting people to notice us, acknowledge us, or look up to us. Speaking of school or college life in particular, certain words that synonymously click with being known are: famous, star student, or popular. Rings a bell, doesn’t it?
It is always said that our days as school or college going students are the best days of our lives, but a lot of us tend to claim that it was the best time for the popular ones, really. Have you wondered what makes a person say so? Does this actually hold true for certain people? More often than not, school/college-going individuals wish to be in the limelight, since social acknowledgment makes them feel important.
So what really is it that makes people popular? You may be able to identify with one or more of the below attributes
Attributes of a Popular Student:-
- Socially Interactive
- Good Communication skills
- Looks and/or Physique
- Comfort with Opposite Gender
Its rare that one person will have all of the above. It just so turns out that we all have certain strengths & certain areas we need to develop ourselves in. For instance,
“A socially interactive person may not be very good at their studies/work. A soccer team captain may struggle with grades. A great looking guy may find it difficult to present in public and a Top ranker may not be athletic”
Eventually, it all boils down to finding what you are already good at, and what you’d like to be good at. Positive attention follows automatically, it’s not an attribute, instead an outcome.
Know your superpowers
An important aspect of working towards becoming a popular person is being aware of what you’re good at. A key ingredient in the recipe of popularity is confidence – something that comes through identification of one’s abilities and skill sets. A great way to know your superpowers is by reflecting on your achievements and past experiences, and penning down your strengths on a piece of paper for you to be able to amplify each one of them in the times to come.
Spot your opportunities
Based on your strengths, it is now time for you to source out the ways by which you can enhance them. For example: if you are articulate i.e., you can speak fluently, you could look at opportunities to participate in debates or elocution competitions, or even jam (just a minute) – where a person unpreparedly speaks on a topic for a minute. For those who like to simply meet new people, one could join rotaract clubs, student-body groups, or help organise social events for your school/college.
Strong name game
Out of all the people you meet, try and remember the names of as many of them as you possibly can. Greeting and/or addressing an individual by their name adds a personal touch to your conversation with them, which in turn would ensure that your listeners do not forget you. And just in case they haven’t told you their name, you can always politely ask for it. 😉
Be an active listener
In a world where everyone wants to talk and tell, there are few listeners. Sometimes people listen just waiting for an opportunity to narrate their story. There lies a significant difference between being able to hear, and being an active listener. Being attentive towards what the other person has to say helps us hold good conversations with them in the future as well, since we are more likely to remember more about the person. Active listeners are always appreciated for their ability to remember things and making people feel valued.
Keep your phone at bay
While interacting with someone, or during an ongoing conversation, maintaining focus over the person you are speaking to would make them feel heard. An important aspect of being a people pleaser is one’s ability to keep their phones away while conversing with someone, since it boosts better individual-individual connect.
Compliment people if you genuinely like something about them, promote healthy relationships free of misunderstandings, offer to help out a fellow-student with something you might be good at, etc. Such small acts of kindness go a long way in making people acknowledge you for all the right things. 🙂
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