I’m an Extrovert. And I’m Misunderstood.


Most of us have a basic understanding of what the term ‘extroversion’ means. We often identify an extrovert by their friendly and approachable nature, as well as jovial personalities. There is, however, much more to gregarious people than what meets the eye. As humans it is part of our nature to study people around us and assume things about them based on our observations; yet, it is crucial to understand that certain parts of an individual’s personality exist but go unrecognized. These characteristics, feelings, or thoughts are internal and are thus kept hidden away from the surface.

There are a few facts and myths about extroverts that everyone should be aware of, whatever of personality type. While some of you may relate to these as being one of your own, those of you who have extroverts for family members or peers will gain further insight into their minds, and how they may be feeling at times. We can assume about individuals based on their general behavior but isn’t it always better to know our loved ones beyond what everyone can see?

Before we move on to learning things about extroverts, let us first understand what the term truly means from a Psychological Perspective.

What does ‘Extroversion’ mean?

A term coined by psychologist Carl Jung, extroversion is a personality trait where a person directs their energy outwards by seeking stimulus from either being social and outgoing, taking risk-taking activities, and generally seeking excitement from the outside environment.

In simple words, someone who shows the personality feature of “extroversion” gets their energy from individuals around them. These people may be their family members, friends, fellow associates, or mere acquaintances.

Who do we ideally call an Extrovert?

Extroverts are often perceived as well-adjusted and socially intelligent. Some of the commonly known and accepted characteristics of extroverts can be found below:

  • Outspoken
  • Thrives in the company of other people
  • Constantly seeks new experiences
  • Easily Bored
  • Drawn to crowds
  • Generally quite animated
  • Assertive
  • Responsive to external stimuli
  • Opinionated

While most of us tend to praise such personality types, extroverts do face challenges of their own. By understanding the same, it will be easier for us to co-exist with them. Also, if I happen to have extroverts for readers here, please feel free to identify yourselves and indulge in some self-acceptance, and maybe even self-discovery!

Extrovert Facts & Myths

Let us explore some facts about extroverts, and also debunk a few myths surrounding their persona:

Being an exhibitionist

As much as many of us would like to believe, not all extroverts favor or enjoy the idea of showing off. The crux of an extrovert’s personality lies in the fact that they draw their energy from people, which is why some of them may just wish to enjoy their company, and not necessarily come under the spotlight.

Extroverts are always okay

It is a widely assumed fact about extroverts that they always manage to bounce back out of difficult situations, and are instantly okay. Extroverts, however, just like the rest of us have their own set of lows, and may even ponder over displeasing thoughts or sad memories for days together. It is because a lot of them do not bring this to the surface, that we often draw such conclusions about them.

Misinterpreting their out-going nature

Extroverts, being their jovial and chatty selves, often have people inferring this nature of theirs for being flirtatious. There exists a fine line between being nice and being a flirt, but in the case of extroverts, a person may be unable to distinguish between the two, even if they are just being plain friendly.

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Returns on emotional investments

The fact that extroverts love being around people means that they not only enjoy the company of others but also are emotionally reliant upon at least some of them, if not all. At times, however, extroverts fail to receive responses that are in accordance with their actions towards others i.e., extroverts make substantial emotional investments in people, and are thus more likely to feel disappointed when the other person does not respond the same way.

Variance in social life

However, not all extroverts have an active social life, as much as they love the people around them. Being around individuals need not imply that a person has a big social circle, or is always out and about. Some people have a small group of people with whom they like spending time, therefore they avoid socializing with everyone.

Extroverts are poor listeners

Jennifer B. Kahnweiler, a certified speaker says that extroverts are great listeners, because of their willingness to socialize and make people comfortable around them. They are known to be as compassionate as introverts and engage in active listening since they enjoy back-and-forth conversations with people.

Reading books is discomforting for some

Yes, you read that right! Reading is a very healthy practice; however, some extroverts simply fail to enjoy this activity. You ask why? Because reading would require one to be by themselves – something that does not quite agree with every extrovert. They would rather invest that time in talking to somebody and discussing the same things that a book might carry. It is not reading, but the whole act of being alone during its process that makes some extroverts literally experience discomfort or boredom, to say the least.

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All extroverts are blabbermouths

Extroverts love having a lively conversation with people, wherein they also give the other person a chance to participate as a speaker. A blabbermouth is someone who does not allow others to speak and continuously keeps on ranting their own stories. While all blabbermouths might be extroverts, not all extroverts are blabbermouths.

Extroverts are never shy

That is yet another myth! Both introverts and extroverts are shy, and also nervous prior to meeting new people or trying something new. The difference lies in the extent to which they feel anxious. Extroverts may tend to hide their feelings and thoughts better, but that doesn’t mean they can’t slip up sometimes.

You’re an introvert if you feel left out

Being an extrovert does not mean one always succeeds in mingling with other individuals. Feeling left out is not an ‘introvert thing’. Even extroverts have their moments wherein, despite being among people, they do not feel like a part of the crowd.

Alone time is an introvert thing

Just like introverts, even extroverts value alone time and like to have their own company once in a while. Extroversion does not mean that one likes to be around people 24*7, but rather most of the time. The difference lies in the duration and frequency of alone-time that introverts and extroverts invest in. Quick recharge is needed every day by an introvert, but once every few days for an extrovert.


Extroverts are sensitive to over-communicating their thoughts and feelings since they are extremely social and talkative, which might get them into problems. While on one hand, it is good to over-communicate in certain situations, on the other hand, doing so may give rise to people having negative perceptions about the person doing so.

Extroverts make for good orators

There is a difference between socializing with friends and family and speaking in front of an audience. Extroverts are super comfortable spending time with people within their social circle. They may, however, not necessarily make for good speakers, since addressing a crowd of people is a different ball game altogether, and generally involves you stepping out of your comfort zone for it, which in turn may negatively impact an extrovert’s public speaking abilities.

Extrovert Think

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Finally, whether we are extroverts or not, it is critical that we acknowledge and understand the feelings of those around us because we are all human, in order to live a happier and more fulfilling life!

Read more- Myths about an introvert

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