The latest news of ISRO chief K Sivan breaking down after Chandrayaan 2’s setback sparks a debate where few were broken watching the ISRO chef crying while few criticized the display of the emotions. Respecting the diversity of opinion, it is important to have a reflection before an opinion.
When it comes to the expression of emotions especially with men, what goes wrong? Why it is not still acceptable for men to cry? The answer depends on the variation of personalities and how have been they raised, “the environment” matters. If the child is taught not to displays his or her emotions, this learned behavior will always be repeated for the rest of his or her life.
The researches show women are three times more likely than men to have cried because of anxiety in the last week, but they were also twice as likely to feel better for having cried. And isn’t it feeling better is what everyone aims? Notice: if you don’t express your anger it changes to frustration, and if you don’t express your sadness for a while it changes to depression, and the same way your fear to anxieties and your disgust to hate. To let them out at the moment is the best way to deal with it. Crying is not a sign of weakness but a step towards healing.
In India, men are supposed to be “strong”, “not emotional”, but is it okay to put all the pressure on them. Is it not a strength that you let your emotions out which has been distressing you for a while? The expression of emotions is food to your soul to keep it healthier. Just as nutrition is better to keep you your physical fitness, expression of emotions is better to keep your mental fitness.
As rightly said by famous psychologist Sigmund Freud: Unexpressed emotions will never die, they are buried alive and will come forth later in uglier ways.