One of the life’s sharpest paradoxe is that your brightest future hinges on your ability to pay attention to the present.
‘Living here and now’, ‘living in the moment’, ‘living in the present’, are not only the phrases but is Philosophy of Happy Life in today’s world of distraction. People who practice this philosophy lead a well-balanced and a happier life.
Simply put, it means living in the present situation be it of any kind whether it evokes happy or negative emotions. It would help the person to deal with the situation with her/his full potential, as s/he would be able to focus on the experience they are going through right now.
The standard reaction in a difficult situation like thinking of the worst outcome, overthinking, or letting emotions take over will lead a person to a state of mind where it becomes difficult to put your coping skills/resources at use or at disposal.
However, choice is always there to take a step back , pull oneself from that space of negativity & future apprehensions and ruminations of past mistakes.
One can instead take the responsibility to overcome or manage the difficult situation or stubborn thoughts. So acknowledge and accept the difficulty. Unless you accept your struggles as valid, you won’t be able to take a further step to improve your situation.
The main source of happiness should be the individual and not the environment, yes one does get affected by the environment as it’s a part of everyone’s life but letting that control the happiness one holds within is not a healthy choice. It has to start from within, from present, here and now
When a person starts living in the present, s/he:
- tends to use our skills more.
- experiences heightened level of self-awareness.
- devotes quality time to self.
- focus on tasks at hand.
- finds meaning and purpose.
- identifies the things and activities those are engaging. satisfying and joyful.
- understands self-worth and importance.
- builds capacity to deal with challenges in life.
Happiness just doesn’t come like that, it needs practice, and is not impossible and when one gets in the process of creating it, s/he starts seeking happiness from within and not let negativity and setbacks or difficult times to have control on oneself.
How Savoring Can help us create Happiness
Individuals are often tangled with thoughts about the future or the past that they often forget to experience what is in hands right now. What one is doing right now and stops that person from letting enjoy what is happening right now. For example, while sipping coffee and thinking, “This is not as good as what I had last week”, or while eating a cookie and thinking, “I hope I don’t run out of cookies.”
Instead, one should relish, appreciate in whatever being done at the present moment – this is what the psychologists call ‘Savouring’. This could be indulged in while doing daily tasks like making breakfast, eating pastries, taking shower, listening to music, studying, solving a conflict, anything but usually involving all senses.
Eckhart Tolle in his epic work ‘The Power of Now’, said, “All negativity is caused by an accumulation of psychological time and denial of the present. Unease, anxiety, tension, stress, worry – all forms of fear – are caused by too much future, and not enough presence.
Guilt, regret, resentment, grievances, sadness, bitterness, and all forms of non-forgiveness are caused by too much past, and not enough presence. Realize deeply that the present moment is all you have. Make the NOW the primary focus of your life.”
Therefore, living in the present moment is something we can build for ourselves, if done it can help us gain very good results and a healthy lifestyle and mental well-being. Practice change in attitude.
As Victor Frank said- Everything can be taken from a man but one thing: the last of the human freedoms—to choose one’s attitude in any given set of circumstances, to choose one’s own way.
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