It is our baggage that keeps us viewing life through the same narrow lens. Are you ready to unpack? Letting go of baggage can be scary. It will require you to redefine who you are and what you’re capable of becoming.
Unresolved issues due to neglected relationships, career failures, or huge financial loss can cause emotional baggage in the future. They may lead to over indulgent behavior in order to mask the underlying issues. If an experience is causing you anger, fear or sadness, take a pause and assess these emotions. Continuous emotional baggage can become a burden. Anything in excess is bad and it may burden one’s system.
When you feel your emotional baggage is weighing you down, you may feel confused or lonely. Learn and understand your emotions well; notice them, when you experience an upheaval. Doing so will improve your ability to feel more at peace within yourself. You can then think more logically and methodically about your issues.
There are instances where one feels worthless or has low self-esteem. In such cases, it is important to begin to, let go of the comparisons one makes with others. There may also be feelings of inadequacy and isolation; however, these are very possibly self-created illusions. Work towards consciously recognizing their signs and let them go in order to allow yourself to feel better
Seven Ways to UNPACK your emotional baggage.
Regardless of where our past wounds and scars come from we can still take responsibility and do something about them. Our future success depends on our willingness to unpack and put away our baggage
- Let go and empty it out- Learn to let go of past regrets and lighten the load you are carrying. Empty out those negative experiences, look at them, examine what they are. How did they get there, and why are they still getting packed?
- Face the fear of letting go- Realize that the past is the past. It taught you what you needed to learn. That is why it is past. Focus on what you learned, on what you now know, and embrace the lessons you were taught, as they will make you wiser in the years ahead. Use your experiences as a learning tool and teachers.
- Practice patience- Be patient with yourself, over and over again. It is not easy to empty that emotional suitcase. Change takes time. One of the things that matter the most is your effort. If you feel like it’s too hard to be done, just keep going. Don’t quit. You will see that hard work, persistence and strong will pay off.
- Celebrate your uniqueness- Appreciate yourself. Find acceptance in your talents and embrace your differences that make you unique. Labels are for items on the grocery store shelves, not for people. Let your light shine bright and follow your own voice.
- Live mindfully-Pay attention to your thoughts and feelings regarding past experiences. Don’t judge what you feel. Simply acknowledge and then release.
- Creating rituals- What could really help if you are trying to let go of the emotional heaviness is writing your feelings down on a sheet of paper and burning it or just throwing it away. Just like you want to throw the excess baggage away. Another helpful ritual is a breathing exercise– breathing in only positive things and breathing out all the negative ones. You can come up with your own personal ritual. Choose whatever helps you best.
- Learning– When recalling past experiences, think about what you can draw from them. There is a lesson behind almost every bad experience, you just have to look more carefully to find it and understand it. That is a way using your past can improve your life.
Every moment can hold meaning, and therein lies an ability to grow, play, learn and evolve as a better you. It is quite possible that we will all experience a bad phase at some point in our lives. However, holding on to such phases even after they have passed, is when we might feel stagnant – unable to let go. Once we are rid of the limiting negative thoughts, feelings, judgments and experiences, we can experience fulfillment in our natural state.
To begin the process of moving forward, one must begin to accept and trust one’s own thoughts and feelings. Think and assess each decision, in order to understand whether it is fueled by emotional baggage or healthier motives. Acknowledgment is crucial to unloading these issues and beginning the journey onward.