Have you ever felt the need to talk to someone?
But couldn’t because-
They might be judging me
They may misunderstand me
I might bore them
What if I say something stupid?
To Talk to someone when undergoing stress or a difficult time may seem to be a very simple solution, yet complicated due to various apprehensions. Often we hesitate but are unaware of help available for emotional distress just like we have for physical distress.
You can talk to someone who you know already- your close friends or family, someone you already share a good bond with, you can talk to colleagues who can help you with your work concerns. However, sometimes we feel apprehensive to talk to people as we feel they might misunderstand us, or judge us or not trained professionally to help you identify challenges and share with you interventions to make you feel better.
You can choose to talk to a counselor, who are trained professionally to actively listen to you, provide you with a nonjudgemental space wherein you can talk about everything that seems to stress you out.
Here are some ways how talking helps.
It is cathartic
Catharsis, which means a feeling of relief. There are many experiences in life that at times leave us emotionally overwhelmed.
Loneliness, breakup, shaking trust with partner, unmanageable conflicts or having lost someone.
These thoughts make us feel stuck in a state of despair and pain. At these times, talking can help, when we talk we let go of the tension we are feeling.
If not released, our unresolved feelings may reflect on our decisions and reactions to situation and events of our life.
New Perspective New Solution
Many times we feel stuck in a loop of thoughts and experiences. We don’t know what to do. But as we talk, we hear ourselves express feelings and information that have not been able to express before. It is this experience of hearing ourselves that allows us to understand ourselves better and connect the dots.
When you brainstorm with someone new ideas pop in your head, as you become more aware f your feelings and thoughts.
When you speak to a trained counselor or a therapist they help you understand through probing and reflecting, on your thoughts and feelings.
Having to hear us out can help in gain self-awareness, to identify our past and present patterns that we often engage in causing us to feel stressed.
Our first reaction to deal with a conflict would be to avoid talking about it as we fear that it might lead a fight or an argument which may create unwanted stress. However, talking actually helps in resolving conflicts if done in the right manner. Often than not, we tend to create certain assumptions when we feel stressed or we are trying to understand the situation, these assumptions can rather turn out to be roadblocks to resolving the conflicts. While we talk we can gain a much better view of the situation and that can help in conflict resolution.
Talking to someone may thus help you declutter your thoughts and gain a better understanding and perspective
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