“There lies a difference between being alive, and living life. The day we begin to live it up, is the day we will attain true happiness.”
How many of you are stressed because of a job? And how often are you stressed out about it? Research says, that the most stressful years of a person’s life are between the ages of 18-33, which means that an individual spends a part of their teenage life, as well as all of their young adulthood life experiencing distress, nervousness, and anxiety. Amidst all this, one thing that remains common is that – nobody chooses to be stressed; we all want to be happy and at peace with ourselves and with those around us.
It is not just those who are employed that are stressed out. Another cause of worry on the rise is the pre-placement stress, or the stress that individuals, primarily students undergo prior to securing a job. Being a part of an ever-competitive world, a large amount of our college life goes into fighting to be on the top in order to meet with our own expectations, as well as the expectations of our loved ones.
What You May Often Feel
Work stress caused before acquiring a job may not solely arise out of the need for the same. There are other factors as well that one goes through
The need to meet with parental/family expectations
Futuristic plans with your partner/spouse that would require professional stability first
The urge to secure a job better than that of your competitors, peers, or cousins and siblings
Fret not – you are not alone. Over 70% of people experience stress prior to getting a job. The key here, however, lies in overcoming this state of mind, and becoming more confident.
What You Can Do About Work Stress
The stress that we experience at times can drive us farther away from our goals and ambitions, thereby adding on to our limitations. Converting your ‘distress’ i.e., negative stress into ‘eustress’ i.e., positive stress will enable one to be that confident achiever.
The very first step towards anything is to understand oneself. This can include your likes, dislikes, interests and hobbies, tastes and preferences, as well as goals and aspirations.
Do it the S-W-O-T Way
In order to become a better version of yourself, a SWOT analysis is a must! By SWOT I mean – one must identify their strengths and weaknesses, based upon which they could further evaluate their opportunities and threats. In the end, it is all about magnifying your strengths, and reducing (or even eliminating) your weaknesses in order to maximise your opportunities and minimise your threats.
Pen Down Your Thoughts
Make a list of all the negative thoughts you have. Now, prepare a list of all the positive things that you can say to yourself each time any of the negative thoughts strike your mind. By confronting negative thinking and replacing it with positive statement will reinforce optimism, and make you feel better than before.
Invest time in Preparation Work
Ask yourself questions that you believe the recruiter may ask you. By doing this, you will be more prepared to face the interview, and will also have your information organised in a better manner. This in turn will boost your confidence.
Know How to Unwind
We all have our own ways by which we are able to calm our minds. The moment you feel that you have reached your saturation point, it important that you unwind and relax, so that you can regain your inner power and come out stronger. One can also consider engaging in any kind of physical activity that works as a stress buster for them. By correctly channelizing all the energy build-up that is taking place within oneself owing to stress, you will not only feel better than before, but also feel more confident as a person.
Change Your Perception
There can be two ways to perceive competition – either you feel pressurised by it, or it inspires you to achieve. Instead of feeling low, look at it as a positive ray of hope. “If my peers can, so can I” – should be the thought.
It is always wise to seek support from those who motivate you, or from your family or peers. At times, we alone may find it difficult to help ourselves feel better; that is when we can approach a loved one and share our feelings with them, and gain strength from their help and encouraging words.
Finally, never give up! A person fails only when he decides to quit. Take Mahendra Singh Dhoni for example – the only reason he became what he is today is because of his perseverance. Despite the hardships that he faced, he continued to follow his dreams, and built his way to the top! Even the worst of stressful situations can be dealt with and have their set of solutions, so hang in there! Be positive.
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