A few instant thoughts that unsettle most of the people when they hear the word counselling or therapy comprise of “I can resolve my concerns myself why should I talk to someone who knows nothing about me”, “Will I be perceived as insane or psycho if I consult a therapist”, “What if my colleagues at work get to know about my counselling visits that will tarnish my image at work” etc. Working as mental health professionals’ one major challenge we face today is that of clearing the myths about seeking help. Maybe the hesitation persists because there are a few dilemmas that are yet to be addressed. Let us help you understand the need, benefit and intricacies of a counselling process better.

What Is Counselling And Why Do We Need It?

Counseling is a talk therapy that allows a person to share his/her difficult feelings and problems in a confidential environment.

A need for counselling arises when anyone, no matter what age, gender or cultural background struggles with any personal concern ( family discord, marital difficulty, relationship issues, work difficulty, loss, identity, parenting or self-related concern like anger, assertiveness, low self-confidence and the like).

A counselor is not there to advise or direct on matters that bother a person. The whole idea of counseling is to EMPOWER individuals through rationalizing of thoughts & feelings. Hence a counselor will encourage you to share in a safe and confidential environment, will listen to you intently, understand why you feel a certain way and then help you identify negative thought patterns and replace them with positive thoughts. You will discover coping mechanism and identify plan of action to address your concerns.

When a person wants to explore in depth the way he/she reacts, behaves and feels about such concerns, counselling offers a safe space to find a resolve.

It is a relief sometimes to be true to ourselves and ask for help rather than suffer alone in silence.

Is It Really Effective?

A wide range of distress can be treated through counselling therapy.

It increases the likelihood of making healthy life choices and offers benefits through collaboration between client and psychologist.

However, in real life effectiveness of therapy depends upon genuineness, trust building and willingness to make a change in sessions.

How It Can Help Me, My Relationship & My Health

Depression, Stress & Anxiety

Depression, PTSD, Obsessive Compulsive Disorder and Alcohol & substance abuse are the major mental illnesses across the globe. While some of these require psychiatric or clinical intervention, a counselor can provide supportive psychotherapy.

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Relationship Help

Whether you’re trying to move on after a sour relationship or build a healthier relationship with your significant other, family or children; communication is of paramount importance and a life coach can help you identify negative communication and adopt healthy communication skills.

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Build Self Esteem and Confidence:

Personality factors such as confidence, self-esteem, assertiveness, anger and building resilience need a therapeutic alliance to understand oneself better and deal with core concerns. Research states 80% of experience improved self confidence with a help of a counsellor.

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Beat Work Stress

2 out every 5 professionals across the globe have emotional health concerns. Evidently, professional life is getting more stressful by the day. Whether you are working for someone or running your own venture, stress grips one and all. A life coach can help you in maintaining better work-life balance, overcome fears and anxieties, deal with difficult people at work and unleash your true potential.

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Overcome Fear of Failure

Various life situations like loss of a loved one, end of a relationship, or loneliness associated with moving out from a city or college need effective coping techniques.

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Interaction With Opposite Sex

Often we perceive more than just biological differences between the two sexes. Both males and females see the opposite sex as an alien species which seems fascinating to them yet mysterious. As children when the differences of the sexes are still to be registered we tend to easily approach and interact with our opposite sex peers but as we grow up we develop our apprehensions.

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Cheating In Relationships

There is no doubting the fact that a strong, blissful, and fulfilling relationship not only provides a person with the assurance of having a support system and constant partner-in-crime in place, but also impacts the way they tend to view themselves, thereby increasing their overall esteem, and confidence levels.

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Beat Addiction

Something that tends to feel pleasurable during its initial times, but grows on to becoming detrimental to our overall well-being is Addiction. It enslaves our minds.Public health experts say that around 1 in 10 persons is said to be experiencing some or the other form of addiction, and they often are the first ones to acknowledge it, mostly at a subconscious level.

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Parenting Challenges

The love between the couple is the real cradle that holds the baby”- Julie Gottman. Child upbringing is a process that goes on from infancy to adulthood; it involves promoting and supporting the physical, social, financial, emotional and intellectual developments. From talking and reading to infants to inculcating values in a child, parents play a great role in the life of a child. In a rapidly changing world parenting is subject to fads and changing trends.

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It can Help YOUR Health

Research shows a direct correlation between mental & physical well being. Stress impacts our health in more ways than we can imagine. Inadequate sleep, pacing heart, asthma and major illnesses like Coronory Heart Disease and other heart related concerns are linked to elevated stress levels. Coaching and Therapy for day to day stressors can help in preventing a lot of health issues

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Some people want to address all their issues like how to parent better or how to quit smoking.While the others wish to make a slight improvement in their lives by honing certain skills of being more mindful in relationships.

The tenure of therapy is based on the intensity of concern and the individual’s propensity towards change. Therefore, benefiting in all areas of life through counselling is real and possible.

Myths About Counselling

Myth #1- Therapy will provide solutions to my problem instantly

Fact - Usually the common understanding of therapy is like that of a band aid that is short term quick fix whereas in reality therapy is a long term healing process of emotional wounds caused by past hurts that we carry in our present life situations.

It is a process which an individual undergoes along with their counsellor to explore their concerns, its origin, and how it can be overcome. It happens over a series of sessions where the client and therapist work together to get a deeper understanding of the root cause, it’s impact, and how it can be overcome to feel better.

Myth #2- Therapy is only for severe mental health conditions or crisis situations

Fact - This is a common misconception that therapy is only for psychological disorders or crisis. Sadly, people avail therapy when there concerns have become severe and have started impacting their daily functioning. However something as common as day to day stress can be addressed in therapy before it prolongs and turns into a bigger concern.

Therapy is a tool for developing awareness about recurrent patterns of thoughts and feelings that we experience that tends to affect in the way we approach life situations because psychology acknowledges that many of our struggles are deep rooted in our childhood experiences.

  • There are many reasons for seeking professional help; the following are a few of them:
  • Relationship concerns
  • Dealing with anxiety
  • Anger management
  • Lack confidence while interacting with others
  • Loneliness
  • Work life balance
  • Increasing our emotional well being

Myth #3- After therapy I won’t face stress or same problems?

Fact -
  1. Stress is common and unavoidable
  2. Stress isn’t homogeneous as we navigate through different phases of life

However as the saying goes “pain is inevitable but suffering is optional” hence therapy may not make us immune to stress but it can help us to get in touch with our inner strength or formulate coping strategies that can equip us to deal with those hardships in a healthy manner.

Myth#4- Therapy isn’t necessary when I can just take medication

Fact - Therapy takes more time and is more challenging than taking a pill and most of us wish to seek a quick fix solution when we are in distress.

Our body and mind are interdependent and influence each other. Whenever we face distress of any form, medicine will relieve the physical pain whereas therapy deals with cognitions and distressing emotions associated with it like anxiety, anger, fear, depression, guilt etc. Our thoughts have the capacity to perpetuate that pain. In order to achieve total wellbeing, both physical and emotional factors need to be focussed upon.

Myth# 5- I can speak to my family, friends or even my physician. Then why do I need a mental health professional?

Fact - Our social network can be a great source of emotional support during tough times however certain factors can create barrier in sharing our struggles with them:

  1. Fear of personal biases or judgements
  2. Feeling of inadequacy when we are unable to fulfill expectations

In such cases therapy provides a safe space without any judgements where a person can speak their heart out without hesitation. Also a therapist with professional training and expertise would be better able to link how our behaviour might be stemming from previous experiences and help in self discovery and introspection in order to change unhealthy thought patterns and behaviours.

Know Your Counsellor

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