Relationship Counseling helps you answer one of the most core question - Is love enough? Often relationships go sour, communication gets broken or misunderstood, distrust creeps in and relationships that were once a source of happiness, reach a bitter end due to unresolved hurts, unmet needs, disappointments and unrealistic expectations.
Love is a necessary factor for a strong and fulfilling relationship but NOT enough. So WHAT is? Relationships require concerted effort from both ends. They require listening, empathy, understanding, healthy boundaries, communication & consistency, to name a few and this is what Relationship counseling helps you work on.
Relationship counseling creates a safe and conducive space for individuals to communicate without hurting each other, understand without judging each other and create a better understanding of each other's needs. Relationship counseling offers an opportunity to heal, build and thrive. It helps one explore and understand how unique, subjective elements of each individual personality might be creating friction in the relationship and how to repair the rupture caused due to it. And sometimes, it helps us move on from a relationship that is beyond repair.
Lack of Trust in Relationships
Of the many factors that can complicate a relationship, lack of trust in your partner or trust in a relationship is one of the hardest ones to deal with. Trust in a relationship is the act of placing confidence in your partner. When you trust your partner you are able to strip your soul to them and let them in your life easily. We cannot weigh trust in terms of either/or but more based on degree and intensity of its presence.
Falling Out of Love
Happily Ever After doesn't always happen. Love is a complex mix of feelings, emotions, attraction, attachment, respect, admiration between two individuals who will keep evolving over time.You may love each other as you are today but as you both evolve as people, will you continue to be AS PERFECT as you were when you set out?
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A relationship counselor helps you navigate your feelings and look out for the problems which are arising in the relationship. For instance, Gottman Method is a type of therapy used by relationship counsellors in helping couples work on their relationship issues. The therapy sees relationships as a hierarchy of needs and helps couples work towards better emotional closeness. Other Couples therapy approaches used by relationship counsellors focus on childhood traumas and how they affect today's relationships in couples (psychoanalytic relationship theory). A relationship counselor focuses on improving the relationship between the couple by addressing the issues revolving around communication and conflict. Couples Therapy has its own ideologies and school of thought as to how to improve romantic relationships and how to minimize the struggles between the couple.
Yes, relationship counseling has shown remarkable results in helping people find a common ground for improvement. Seeking professional help from a relationship counsellor is always a better idea since they provide both the partners an unbiased conducive environment to reestablish the bond. Relationship therapy is proved to be effective in dealing with issues of communication, intimacy, trust, etc between the partners, and techniques taught in the therapy would help both the partners gain insight into the situation.
The counselor would inquire about your relationship with your partner which includes your history with them and would expect both of you, to be honest, and talkative about the situation. Depending on the situation, your therapist would ask you to talk separately as well as it gives more insight into the situation. Sometimes it’s difficult to talk in front of your partner and it’s absolutely normal. After the initial discussions and history taking, your counselor might give you feedback to improvise and make a treatment plan for you as to how to proceed further.
It may be hard to recognize if you need relationship counseling but if you feel lack of inclination towards each other, or you talk less, unable to express yourself, lack intimacy or are hostile to each others opinion & behavior - then it’s time you see a relationship counselor. If you have started to think of leaving as an option then we would encourage you to start you counseling journey with a professional immediately. In certain cases amicable exits are also important for both the partners to lead a happier life - you may reach out to a relationship counselor to assist you in this process.
Let’s look at few of the things you need to remember while working with a relationship therapist:
Search for therapists which are specialized in couples therapy
Both the partners should start therapy with an open mind
Stick with therapy
Having a healthy relationship means having real happiness which improves health and reduce stress. Research also shows that people who are in healthy relationships have less stress and are more happy. To make a relationship effective, you need to look put for these
Your relationship counselor may decide to start your therapy journey individually and them move into couple sessions to have a better understanding. The suggested duration for every sessions is 40 or 60 minuets maximum for either individual or couple sessions. You may start with a couple counseling package for Rs. 2,999/- for 8 x 20 minute sessions or unto Rs. 14,999/- for 32 x 20 min sessions with BetterLyf.
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