We are all inherently born worthy but some experiences make us question it

Self-worth, self-care, and self-esteem have become the new catchphrases with the rise in mental health awareness.

Our self-worth has far-reaching consequences and becomes the lens through which we see ourselves, other and the world in general. Low self-worth creeps up in both personal and professional spheres. It defines the way our interactions with others are shaped.

How Therapy Helps

  • Explore the origin of low self-worth

    Criticising parents, discouraging teachers, bullying, academic failures, professional setbacks are some of the major contributing factors for low self-worth.

  • Restore Self Confidence

    Confidence is built like a muscle through different approaches like- any negative automatic thought regarding self is explored and challenged. List of strengths and accomplishments are made as reminders during low phases. Positive affirmations and letter writing are used to nourish self-love.

  • Incorporate Self Care activities

    Mental and physical self-care activities are incorporated in daily routine.

  • Boundary Setting

    Usually people with low self-confidence place others’ needs above their own in order to keep the relationship intact. It is out of fear rather than love. Boundary setting helps to place healthy limits and build emotionally secure relationships.

  • Positive Self- Talk

    Negative self-talk and the inner critic is replaced with a compassionate, nurturing, supportive inner voice.

  • Pitfalls

    Even after self-worth is built, it can be impacted by life-changing events like break up/divorce, loss of a job, physical disability and hence needs to be worked upon continuously.

Enhance Confidence

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Interaction with Opposite Sex

Interactions with opposite sex may not come very naturally to us. We may feel shy, nervous or intimidated when we have to interact with the opposite sex. These feelings usually originate from an underlying unfamiliarity or fear of being judged, disliked or rejected. To be happy and confident, it's important to feel good about who we are. Gradual exposure can help build comfort and confidence read more...

Inferiority Complex

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In relationships, low self-worth can manifest as:

Some of the common manifestations in different areas of life:

  • Anxious attachment

    Anxiety in relationships usually stems from the core beliefs like “I am not good enough”, “I am unworthy of love”, “my partner can leave me anytime” “they might find someone better” “what if he/she finds me boring”. This leads to insecurity at any sign of emotional distance like a partner not replying quickly, them spending time with others.

  • Possessiveness

    Being possessive is sometimes taken as a sign of attachment and love however it usually stems out of fear of losing their partner and considered unhealthy when the possessive partner starts controlling/restricting the interactions with family members or friends or interferes with other areas of life like career, hobbies, etc.

  • Retroactive jealousy

    Retroactive jealousy is essentially a more intrusive form of jealousy regarding the partner’s exes. It leads to an inability to accept that their partner was emotionally or physically involved with someone else before them.

  • Fear of abandonment

    When a person feels low about themselves, they face a fear of stating their needs and aim to please their partner at the cost of themselves.

  • Codependency

    In codependent relationships, one person is invested more emotionally, physically, financially. It is often the result of insecurity.

  • Lack of boundaries

    A person with low self-confidence is more inclined to say yes to others even if they are not comfortable with it because they are scared that others will leave if they say No

In professional and personal life, low self-worth can manifest as:

  • Saying no to new opportunities

    Low confidence limits our capabilities and binds us to our comfort zones because taking up new opportunities would mean opening ourselves up to taking risks and making mistakes.

  • Second-guessing our ability

    Every setback is attributed to lack of skills and doubts crop up in the tasks undertaken.

  • Exerting ourselves to the point of burnout

    Low self-worth means we derive our worth from our performance so, in order to prove that we are good enough, we may end up exhausting ourselves.

  • People-pleasing

    To compensate for lack of self-worth, external validation becomes the source of appreciation hence we may end up molding ourselves according to other’s preferences.

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