Often people think of confidence as something that the lucky few are born with. Confidence is not a fixed attribute; it’s the outcome of the thoughts we think and the actions we take. It is not based on your actual ability to succeed at a task but your belief in your ability to succeed. Many-a-times we are held back from attempting to achieve our goals and ambitions because we doubt our capabilities. Fear of the unknown coupled with self-doubt is what keeps us from trying and taking that leap of faith. Low self-confidence can also become self-destructive, as it often manifests itself as negativity. Confident people are generally more positive – they believe in themselves and their abilities, and they also believe in living life to the full.
Confidence can wax and wane throughout our lives. It’s boosted when we experience a win or receive praise. It takes a hit when our efforts fall short of the mark, we're criticized, rejected or simply feel a lack of external recognition. It’s therefore vital not to become overly reliant on external affirmation to prop up our self-worth, but to take ownership for taking the worthwhile actions needed to sustain it.
The single most powerful way to build confidence is to act with the confidence you aspire to have. That is, to act as if you already possess the confidence you aspire to have. Focusing on things that make us anxious, further lowers our confidence while focusing on things that inspire us, and make us feel more powerful and confident.