Self-esteem can influence your relationship satisfaction just as much as it affects your partner's. It is natural to feel insecure at times, however, constantly feeling unworthy of a person or lacking self-confidence in a relationship may make it difficult for us to accept that somebody can truly love us for who we are, which in turn would result in inadequacy and dissatisfaction. When you feel bad about yourself, your insecurities can start to creep into the way you act with your significant other - and that can have a negative impact on both of you.
Low self-esteem may also distort your perception of your partner. In addition to that it can also make you more anxious about your relationship in general. Being afraid that your partner will leave you, or panicking over other things that others wouldn't think twice about is also generally experienced which may lead to panic attacks or extreme jealousy.
Practising self-love will help us feel self-sufficient and reinforce positive relationship outcomes. When you notice yourself thinking you're not lovable, or that no one will ever find you attractive, you need to stop and talk back to yourself in a positive way.
The goal in an intimate relationship is to feel calm, centered and focused. The intimacy needs to be safe, supportive, respectful, non punitive and peaceful. You feel taken cared for and nurtured, unconditionally accepted and loved just for existing and being alive. You feel part of something. You are able to forgive and be forgiven without revenge or reminders of past offenses.